Since it's Valentines day today, Happy Valentines day to those celebrating, I have decided to indulge you readers into one my theories about relationships, the need want relationship theory.
A healthy relationship needs to start off right if it wants to last long. My theory explains how people should fall in love.
When a guy meets a girl he likes or vice versa, both parties should want to spend time with the other person. The keyword is want, they should not feel like they need to spend time with you after just meeting you. When someone feels like they need a person after meeting them for a day or so, that is something called an obsession. People who are obsessed with the opposite party are very dependent on the other party, and screw up the balance in the relationship. By balance, I mean that both parties should have an attraction that is equivalent to the other.
During the beginning of a new relationship, both parties should want the other person, not need them. It is through life, experiences with the person, going through the good and bad times together, and the journey you both share during a long period of time is when the feeling of needing the other person comes into play.
Being through so much with someone will make one realize that after going through so much, you know longer want the person, but you need them. They share all of your memories of good and bad times and if both parties weathered the storm, then they both know they found a keeper. When you feel like you need them after life's experiences with them is when you know you truly love them.
Although personalities and egos can put a tailspin on any relationship, this is a simple guideline on how one should approach a relationship if they want it to last long. although we all want to need someone, we need to want them first!
agreed.
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